The message that made think...

PSEUDO~RELATIONSHIP

- Parang kayo pero hindi.. No commitments involved, you’re UNCERTAIN on your role to his/her life..

- You can’t expect him/her to be always there for you..

- You can’t demand, you can’t be jealous..

- “There is no “US”…meron lang “YOU AND ME”…”

- You can’t be sure of his/her feelings for you…

- And this will make you wonder where you are in the relationship…

OR…

…If there is a relationship at all.

But why do others still settle for this kind of relationship??

For FUN?
Kilig feeling??
..para lang may kasama habang wala pa ang “REAL THING”??

MAYBE…

but what if one gets cold?.. then that’s the END of EVERYTHING.

The relationship may not be TRUE but the PAIN is REAL…

You will be miserable, Hoping to bring back what you used to have…

dahil “PARANG KAYO PERO HINDI”…kaya hanggang dun na lang..

> POWER RELATIONSHIP

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AND YEAH! TAPOS NA NGA ANG POWER RELATIONSHIP..

sana madami akong natutunan..

**peace..**i’ll be back for this….
..and im back!.

about this Pseudo-relationship thingy..

it’s like so last season..

I could probably say that now because it’s over..

and that for sometime now, I can’t really think of a reason why I’d been to this kind of thing. I mean, yeah..mahirap nga nman yung ganitong kind of relationship.. and one of my favorite part is yung “..”There is no “US”…meron lang “YOU AND ME”.. which is always the main topic namin ng mga friends kuh during those times na I suppose I was still “IN” this kind of situation. I mean, yeah men!..there’s really no “US”, it’s just “YOU” and “ME”.. and yun ung isa sa pinaka masakit sa lahat.. na parang ang labas eh..you’re just a cover up..habang wala pa ang sinasabi nilang “THE REAL THING”.. And syempre..mas mahirap din pag ang isa sa inyo eh nahulog na sa ganitong type ng relationship.. na mahalin na nya yung isa..while the other person is just playing pa din.. meron din namang instance na parehong nandyan na yung ” real thing” pero they still settle for this kind of relationship “FOR FUN”.. ewan ba.. as for my experience kasi.. I suppose I “had” that so-called “REAL THING”..but I still managed to have this kind of relationship with one of my closest friend in College.. tama ba yun?? “PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP” talaga noh??kasi naman..basta medyo mahirap syang i-explain in detail.. but in this kind of relationship kasi.. these two person might find theirselves havin’ fun hanging out with their supposed to be “someone special”..pero wla talagang commitment..kung baga..”no strings attached”..ayun..so wala ka talagang pananagutan if ever.. di ka pwede magselos dahil “hindi naman kayo”..but, you can watch movies together, go to malls and hang-out,dine-out, play games together, go to places together, go home together, sleep on each others shoulder, sweet effect, call names.. aun.. hold hands (Oooopps…accepted pa ba itoh??)..

haha..those last few comments are waay not accepted ah..sana naging kayo nalang kasi di ba?? for all we know eh malamang you’re already exchanging sweet notings nadin naman, na magsisimula sa simple sweet quotes na may excuse na naka group message sya, then after nyo mag “date”.. na may excuse pang “friendly date” yun..(Girl.. FYI.. Im SO NOT born yesterday..) that “friendly” date is STILL a date!..okay?..eh mag papalitan na ulit kayo ng messages na parang hindi kayo magkasama a while ago.. right?? Sinong nakakarelate?? (raise your voice..hahaha).. ang cheesy ng mga pinag gagawa nyo.. but either way, kung hindi chessy ang ma inlove eh panu pa kea xa mag wowork??.. Im really wonderin’ If may Love story na hindi mo masasabing Chessy..katulad nalang nung kanina na narining namin ng mga friends kuh habang nakatambay.. may dumaan kasi na motor with two boys and a girl in the middle na pinagtawanan pa namin dahil according to my “crazy” friends eh.. natuhog daw si ate…hahaha.. with matching lines pa nila na…

girl(si ateng natuhog daw): “mahalaga ba ako sa’yo??”

boy (si kuyang ngddrive ng motor): “kung hindi ka mahalaga eh di…..**bitin”..

then pag lampas nila eh..pinag fiestahan na namin ang mga lines na narinig namin..”mahalaga ba ako sa’yo?”..chessy pero okay sana yung tanong na yun kung in love ka na at hindi ka sure kung ano ka talaga sa taong minahal mo na..applicable xa sa pseudo-relationship noh?..ang galing tlga.. akalain mo?? naku talaga.. I can’t really think of anything na ikagaganda ng relationship na ito.. In a way kasi..masaya sya dahil hindi ka commited sa taong kasama mo while at the same time eh..you’re having the time of your life.. no strings attached.. nagiging masama lang sya pag natutunan mo ng mahalin yung taong kasama mo.. at dun nag sstart yung pagiging unhealthy ng ganitong klase ng relationship.. talo pag pareho kayong torpe.. yun bang sweet-sweetan padin kayo..exchanges ng “I LOVE YOU” thru text..eventhough you don’t really mean that…sabay pa kayo papasok, may sarili pa akyong schedule ng lakad nyo, dress code, you call them up when you miss them, at bonggang palitan ng ka-sweetan sa text as if you really mean what you say to that person…haix..

ano na nga ba ang mangyayari sa ganitong klase ng samahan?..nagiging sobrang unhealthy sa friendship..lalo na kung friends kayo at first di ba?.. naku guys..

guys, All I know is that LOVE is a kind of thing that you should’nt play with.. mahirap pag nahulog ka..at hindi ka sure kung may sasalo sa’yo .. kasi hindi naman talaga sya totoong relationship di ba?..based from my experience..hindi xa masyadong maganda..but you’ll learn by the process naman, mahirap ng magsalita eh.. nahirapan akuh dito at medyo naloka..but still, I LEARNED..yun naman yung mahalaga di ba?..WE LEARN FROM OUR PAST EXPERIENCE.. para in the future..we become better persons.. sana lang talaga we learn something new.. kasi some people just go through these experiences without Learning from their mistakes and they tend to repeat the same thing all over again..and with that, they tend to hurt themselves more..and ang masama pa dun..hindi sila nag ggrow as a better individual…so.. mahirap talaga sya.. kaya naman.. tigilan na ang pagiging masyadong torpe and say how you feel to that special person, para malaman mo na kung dapat pa bang ituloy or tama na.. kasi for all I know, We all deserve to be happy with someone who deserves our time and effort..and LOVE nadin syempre.. ayun.. kaya stay happy guys.. pag basted..eh di Move on na lang..wla ka naman magagawa kung ayaw sa’yo nung tao di ba?.. oo masakit, pero ganun talaga ang buhay… at kaya nga nandyan ang mga tunay na friendships.. believe me or not, kaya sila binigay ni God satin eh may purpose yang mga yan.. kahit gaano pa sila kabaliw at kakaiba..still, sila padin ang makakatulong satin para makapag move on.. bukod sa sila makakasama mo sa pag iinom.. eh patatawanin ka ng mga yan kahit sobrang corny sila at feeling mo eh hindi sila makakatulong at mas pipiliin mo pang magkulong sa room muh at mag fetal positon sa pinaka corner ng room mo..

True friends will stick with you no matter how hard you drag them away from you…

mahal ka ng mga yan.. yun ang natutunan kuh..masaya madaming friends..but make sure meron jan na pupulutin ka in your worst..and im just so proud dahil meron akuh nyan..madami.. ang saya.. kaya tigilan na ang pseudo-relationship okay?? hang out with friends wag yung “friends with benefits”..gaga!..hahaha…kidding.. basta.. friendship is the best policy talaga… kung mahal mo isang tao..sabihin mo na..wag kang pa keme pa ever..di na yan uso..dahil in the end ikaw din kasi mahihirapan eh.. kaya go lang..keri yan.. pag di ka trip..move on ulit..cycle lng yan eh.. until you find someone who truly deserves you..

sabi nga dun sa isang fave blog kuh…

“you don’t look for love. you wait for it. and shit happens over and over again until the universe decides that you finally learned your lesson”..

:)